The BOLD (Walking Towards a Run) You know that rolling feeling in your stomach when you think about taking that action that scares you? If confidence is an ingredient of success, then what damage is that feeling doing to your chances of taking action and achieving your goal? What if you could build your confidence with […]
The Vigilance Paradox: What are You Inviting?
The BOLD (Tamp it Down) Do you feel that you are in control? The answer to that question probably has a direct and often profound effect on your behavior, your experience, and your outcomes. The more out of control we feel, the more likely we are to try to assert control. Not all methods for doing this are […]
The Echo Bounce: Inviting Perspective
The BOLD (Alone) Isolation is showing up differently than I thought it would. Most days, I’m online with clients and on the phone with friends. I go to the park three times a week to work out with my trainer and a few friends. I do what I do and most of it is pretty similar to what […]
The Abundance Fulcrum: Balancing Enough and More
The BOLD (Enough) This month, we’re going to explore the sixth principle of the Prospects of Possibility framework: Evict Insufficiency. Right now, it is tempting to focus on all the things that are insufficient because we are experiencing an unprecedented crisis. A few months ago, it was tempting to focus on insufficiency because of the contrast between […]
The Authenticity Paradox: Own Yourself and the Room Will Take Care of Itself
The BOLD (Own the Room) Own the room. It’s advice I’ve heard. But how do you avoid the overbearing presence of Nora Desmond making her grand entrance in Sunset Boulevard? Or, if you wish, the Carol Burnett version, the great Nora Desmond (she descends the stairs at moment 1:53). Perhaps we need to rely instead on owning […]
Am I Enough? Are You Asking the Right Question?
The BOLD (What’s Enough) Insufficiency. Not Enough. Imposter syndrome. There is a little voice that follows us about questioning our fitness for the task at hand, our eligibility for success, our right to the awards we’ve earned. It is a particularly insidious form of resistance. The voice tells us stories and the first story is, “You can’t tell anyone you […]
Prepare for the Unexpected: Part 2–Design Clarity
The BOLD (By Design) I’m excited about this topic, which is part two in a three part series about preparing for the unexpected. We are going to explore designing clarity—setting ourselves up for success by building capacity before the surprise arrives so that we can make a different choice in the space between stimulus and response. […]
How Bright Shines the Light
THE BOLD (on Light Signatures): “Who am I to make such a difference?” you ask. “How are my meager resources going to impact the world?” A trip to a lighthouse reminded me that we don’t have to rely solely on the strength of our pilot light. There are resources to clarify, amplify and focus our […]
You Might Be a Perfectionist If…
…you think you aren’t one. THE BOLD (Give it, and Yourself, a Rest): For many of us, the very characteristic we secretly nurture is the very characteristic that keeps us from enjoying the order, control, progress, and prestige we crave. Perfectionism is a seductive poison. The Whisper (Perfectionism is Far from Perfect): If you conducted […]